LISTEN

The most important strategy for an Ally is to listen without judgment and with compassion.

DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

Don’t assume that the sexual orientation of a person is the most important aspect of that person, or the only topic they want to discuss. Remember that everyone is a multifaceted individual whose sexuality is only one aspect of their total life.

Don’t assume that all unmarried people are single or have relationships or desire relationships with individuals of the “opposite” gender/sex.

Don’t assume all mothers and fathers are heterosexuals or that children live in families consisting of a male-female couple.

BE AWARE OF THE LANGUAGE YOU USE

Using inclusive terms such as "partner" or "date" instead of "spouse," "wife,"
"husband," "boyfriend," or "girlfriend."

Using inclusive terms such as "committed relationship" instead of "marriage."

Using pronouns that are gender neutral and don’t assume the sex/gender of someone’s partner, such as "person," "someone," or "anyone."

BE AWARE OF PREJUDICE & HETEROSEXISM

Be an Ally 100% of the time, no deals, no strings attached.

Recognize that it will take some time to bridge communication gaps and develop an understanding of the experiences of people with different sexual orientations and gender identities from your own.

You don’t have to try and convince individuals that you are “on their side,” just be there for them.

Confront jokes and slurs: silence may communicate that you condone the prejudicial behavior.