The previous section of this manual discussed the risks and benefits
associated with disclosing one’s sexual orientation or gender identity with others or coming out, this section breaks down some further reasons an
individual may choose to or not choose to come out.

What might people who are a member of the LGBTQ population be afraid of when coming out?

• Rejection – loss of relationships with friends and/or family
• Gossip – rumors spread about their sexual orientation or gender identity
• Loss of spiritual foundation- rejection from their church, mosque, temple, etc.
• Being thrown out of the house or of the family
• Loss of financial support
• Harassment or Abuse
• Threat of physical violence
• Discrimination
• Loss of employment or discrimination by their employer
• Questions surrounding their personal or professional integrity
• Questions surrounding their intimate relationships and their health (both mental and physical)
• Being seen by others as sick, immoral, perverted, anti-family, or sinful

How might people who are members of the LGBTQ population feel about coming out to someone?

• Scared
• Vulnerable
• Unsure of how others will react
• Relieved
• Proud

What might people who are members of the LGBTQ population want from others when they come out?

• Acceptance
• Support
• Understanding
• Comfort
• Reassurance that their relationships has not changed in a negative
• manner
• Closer relationships to friends and/or family
• Acknowledgement of their feelings
• Understanding and compassion for their coming out process
• Love
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